For Better or For Worse

"Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."

-Barnett R. Brickner

As Excited as I am to get married, I'm not going to lie, I'm also scared as hell. Even though I already live with Colby, getting married is going to be such a big transaction. I'm not scared because I think I'm making the wrong decision (which I'm not), I'm scared because there are SO many marriages that fail. I'm talking about people I do know, and people I don't. I wonder if people actually think about their vows before and even after they say them. FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. Think about it. You are not only making a promise to your spouse, but to God as well. That is a big, BIG commitment. Its scary because in making these vows, you know there is going to be a "better" as well as a "worse". You are going into marriage knowing there will be some really bad, rough, horrible times. And yet you vow to stay with them, which is how it should be, but I can imagine how hard it must be. So many people just give up, surrender, and get out of the situation. How awful, and how heartbreaking! I'm not scared Colby and I will get a divorce one day, I'm scared for the rough times that are ahead. Laying in bed last night I was thinking of the traditional vows and it was the first time I actually fully comprehended what they were saying. We plan on writing our own vows anyway, but it still really made me think. I am going in to this scared for the "worse" times, but really excited about the "better". If that makes sense. It does to me, and thats really all that matters.

Devon